
Feeling Ten Feet Tall: How Reframing Limitations Unlocks Impact, Confidence, and Connection
What happens when the dream in front of you feels out of reach?
If you work in disability services, education, or nonprofit programming, you’ve likely witnessed the heartbreak of untapped potential—times when a person’s worth or capability is dismissed, not just by others, but by themselves.
But you’ve also seen the opposite: the spark that ignites when someone breaks through their fear, challenges what’s “expected,” and discovers what they’re truly capable of.
This blog is an invitation—to shift your lens. To see limitations not as stop signs, but as starting lines. Not as weaknesses, but as opportunities for creativity, compassion, and connection.
🚧 What If the Limitation Isn’t the Problem?
Here’s a truth that might surprise you:
Limitations are rarely the problem.
How we respond to them is.
I’ve lived with cerebral palsy all my life. I’ve heard the assumptions, felt the weight of expectations—or lack thereof. I’ve seen how quickly the world can focus on what we can’t do, instead of exploring what’s possible.
Eventually, those external messages can take root. We internalize them. We stop trying. We shrink our dreams to fit someone else’s imagination.
But here’s the thing: Belief changes the equation. And belief is something we can choose—and model.

You Are Not a Problem: Overcoming Self-Doubt to Become a Difference-Maker
What if one of the first lessons you ever learned was actually misleading?
From a young age, most of us are taught to say, “I’m sorry.” It’s an important phrase—necessary for empathy, growth, and healthy relationships. But sometimes, we learn it too well.

The Very Things That Hold You Down Can Lift You Up
Lately, thanks to my daughter’s growing curiosity, I’ve been revisiting some of the Disney classics.
I’ll be honest—I didn’t expect Dumbo to stop me in my tracks. But there we were, at the end of a long Sunday, winding down with a movie when I heard it:
“The very things that held you down are going to lift you up, up, up.”
That line—spoken by Dumbo’s sidekick, Timothy Q. Mouse—hit me square in the chest.
It’s still echoing days later.

From Setbacks to Strength: How Resilience, Reframing & Mutual Support Can Transform Your Journey
Over the past few months, four themes have emerged again and again in my work and in my personal life:
Resilience in the face of disability and disappointment
Reframing setbacks as new doors, not dead ends
Mutual support and interdependence within families and teams
Turning fear and grief into purposeful action
If you're working to support a family member, coach a team, or lead yourself through loss or limitation, this post is for you. Let's explore how resilience, reframing, and community can shape a path forward—even when the world seems to be saying you can’t.

Push, Don’t Punish: Redefining Growth, Greatness, and Grace in the Pursuit of Your Goals
Push, don’t punish.
It’s a simple phrase, but it could change the way we work, live, and lead.
Whether you’re a professional navigating burnout, a student juggling expectations, or someone living with a disability like I am, this truth applies: The only way to grow is to stretch yourself—but growth doesn’t require self-punishment.

Fatherhood, Disability, and the Power of Mutual Support
Becoming a Father Changes Everything
When you’re single, life comes with one set of responsibilities. Add a relationship, and the layers grow. Add children? That’s a whole new level.
I first wrote about the emotions tied to these life phases in my book, I'MPOSSIBLE: Life Lessons on Thriving with a Disability, when I was three years into marriage and still child-free.
Now, I’m a father to a beautiful daughter. She has transformed my understanding of purpose, love, and vulnerability.
I love her so deeply, I feel like my heart could burst.
And like most parents, I want the absolute best for her—not just in terms of safety or success, but freedom. I want her to feel fully alive and inspired to pursue whatever lights her soul on fire.
But that desire brings up a familiar set of questions.

Building a Life You Want—Even When It Feels Like Everything Says You Can’t
Like many kids, I dreamed of making the middle school basketball team. I lived and breathed the sport—SportsCenter in the mornings, sports biographies after school, and long-range three-pointers in my driveway. Cerebral palsy limited my use of the left side of my body, but I believed I could become the best right-sided player around.
Reality had other plans. My name wasn’t on the roster after tryouts. I was crushed.
But instead of giving up, I pivoted. A mentor’s advice stuck with me: "It’s okay to get down—you just can’t stay there."

Am I Loveable? What My Story Taught Me About Worth, Fear, and Being Enough
“Am I loveable? Is what I have to offer—is who I am—worth it?”
These questions have followed me—quietly, consistently—through many seasons of my life.
They don’t always show up boldly. Sometimes they whisper in the background: in moments of self-doubt, fear of rejection, or silence after vulnerability. They’re especially loud when I forget to be intentional about how I view myself.
As someone living with cerebral palsy, it’s been easy to fall into the trap of thinking that my differences make me less valuable. But thankfully, I didn’t grow up in isolation. I was raised in a home where love was modeled, not just mentioned—and that foundation made all the difference.

What I’m Learning About Success, Seasons, and Staying the Course
As I move deeper into both life and leadership, I find myself returning to the same essential questions:
What does success actually mean to me?
What does it look like to live that out day by day—especially when the path isn’t straight?
And how can we align our actions with our values, even in the face of uncertainty?

What Brings You Back to Center? Reflections on Core Values, Purpose, and Living with Intention
Maybe it’s because I’m on the verge of turning 40, but I’ve found myself reflecting a lot lately. As a speaker and coach, I often tell my clients: the last thing any of us should settle for is simply going through the motions.
Living with intention takes hard work, persistence, belief, and clarity—especially during seasons of grief, transition, or uncertainty.
So how do we stay centered when life throws us off course?

Fear, Grief, and Possibility: The Journey to Becoming “I’MPOSSIBLE”
When I sat down to write my first book, I didn’t begin with triumph, success, or hope.
I started with fear.
Why? Because fear has been the single greatest opponent in my life. It’s shown up in countless forms—some obvious, some subtle. Sometimes it’s felt like it won. Other times, I’ve stood up to it, stared it down, and kept going anyway.

From Fear to Forward: Turning Trauma into Purposeful Action
“Get the book done.”
Those were the words my dad said to me every time we saw each other in what turned out to be the final six months of his life.
He meant it literally—he wanted me to finish writing the book I had been working on. But over time, I’ve realized he also meant it figuratively:
Finish what you start. Step into your purpose. Don’t let fear hold you back.
“How High Can I Go?”
"How High Can I Go?"
That was the question I asked myself countless times growing up, especially while watching basketball games with my dad. As I watched athletes soar toward the hoop, I couldn’t help but compare their physical capabilities to my own reality—navigating life with cerebral palsy. I knew my path looked different, but that didn’t mean I couldn’t strive for greatness in my own arena of life. In fact, my dad believed that whatever his ceiling had been, it should become my floor. That belief challenged and inspired me. If he had reached a certain point in life, then where could I begin, standing on his shoulders?

Turning Personal Challenges and Grief into Support for Others: My Journey
You may be asking, "Why title your book I’MPOSSIBLE JOURNEY?" As my dad frequently reminded those around him, so much of life is about perspective. Are you choosing to focus on the apparent impossibilities around you? Or have you, like me, been on a journey that has strengthened your resolve and conviction that you have what you need inside of you and in the world around you to make an impact? Life presents challenges, but I believe those very challenges can be stepping stones to something greater.

In life there’s a lot you can’t plan for, no matter how hard you try.
No matter how well you prepare, you can’t imagine what loss will be like. You will have days that seem simple, straight-forward and just like always, leaving you smiling. Then there will be plenty of days when nothing makes sense. Everything feels unfamiliar and overwhelming.

Why I wrote I'M POSSIBLE JOURNEY: Finding Treasure in the Midst of Grief.
For anyone who has lost a loved one, I want you to know that your grief is valid.
It’s okay to feel lost, to question everything, to struggle with the weight of their absence. But I also want to encourage you to seek out the treasures left behind—the lessons, the memories, the love that still lingers. You are not alone in this journey, and I hope that through my book, you can find solace in knowing that others have walked this path and found light even in the darkest moments.

From Surviving to Thriving
Years passed before I consciously remember stopping to think about my reality. Stopping to think about my life could reveal even less control and say so over it than I previously acknowledged. Easier to keep going and power through without asking a lot of questions, I reasoned.
I now realize that everyone needs healing. None of us escape life unscathed. Like Louis Armstrong sang, yes, “What a Wonderful World,” and yet, as he also recognized, what a scary and cruel place the world can be.

Risk and Dreams Go Hand in Hand
Risk. What comes to mind when you see that word?
Does the idea of risk fill you with fear? Perhaps you associate risk with the board game of the same name.
One of the most important initial steps is to be honest about what scares you. In other words, start where you are, not where you wish you were.

Owning All Of Who You Are
Do you find yourself saying things like, “Nobody understands me”? Or feeling a bit misunderstood, and unsure what to do with it?

The I'MPOSSIBLE E-Book is Live!
I looove that October is that it is National Disability Employment Awareness Month, which is near and dear to the heartbeat of Dreaming Made Simple!
Dreaming Made Simple equips motivated youth and families affected by disabilities to find a way to pursue their vocational goals. I do this through giving keynote speeches at schools and organizations.
Now I just received word that the E-Book version is live!